Well, I think it’s safe to say I’ve been neglecting my blog a little bit lately. A little post-travel blues, laundry, sleeping off my jet lag and reminiscing through photos of our adventure have been what’s occupying my days. That and getting back into my healthy routine and catching up on work. To top it off, I was lucky enough to get my yearly spring cold that’s been plaguing me over the past 2 years. I’m one of those people who loves to live a full and busy life, so when a pesky cold gets me down I feel frustrated and guilty about all the things I feel like I should be doing and sometimes I forget to just take a few days to recuperate and rejuvenate. I’m happy to say I’m feeling much better, caught up on work and feeling more optimistic about the future then ever before.
A couple of days after we got home from Southeast Asia, I felt a familiar feeling. The desire to go and explore the unexplored. Another case of wanderlust. Now, the fact that I have a normal Monday to Friday job means I can’t just hop on a plane to satisfy my craving for adventure. No, unfortunately I must work and save up cash as well as holiday time in order to make my next dream a reality, much like most working professionals. Sometimes, saving up can take longer than expected. The time between trips can be weeks, months or even over a year so sometimes, I have to remind myself that looking too far into the future prevents me from being present in everything I do.
I think this is a common occurrence for many people, and not just looking forward to a trip, but other events as well. Have you ever found yourself saying “I can’t wait to do _______” or “I can’t wait until we get to go _________” or “I can’t wait to be done________”. I used to find myself saying this regularly when I was in school. I couldn’t wait to be done University so that I could be out in the real world, making a real pay cheque. The truth is now I’d give anything to go back to those carefree days as a student, not having to deal with all of the responsibilities that come with adulting.
Now it’s perfectly natural to look forward to things in your life. As human beings, I believe we are each driven by our own unique motivations. We all have goals or milestones that we are working towards, whether it’s an upcoming trip, a fitness goal or completing a certain personal milestone. We are always striving to improve ourselves in some way, shape or form. Looking forward to these goals help us to keep our eye on the prize and motivate us to achieve those goals. I believe that the key is finding a balance between staying motivated and looking too far ahead into the future that you miss out what’s right in front of you. Sometimes, we are so concerned about what’s to come that we forget to be present in each and every moment. Time goes on, and then one day, you find yourself looking back on a certain day or moment in time, and even though it may not have been a particularly important day, you might cherish that moment for no reason other than the fact that it was “special” to you.
So with that, I’ve set a personal goal to live more in the moment and focus less on looking too far ahead into the future. There are so many exciting things to look forward to in my future, but I don’t want that to prevent me from enjoying these moments that I may never get back. Life moves so quickly and circumstances change in the blink of an eye and someday, I want to be able to look back on my life and know that I appreciated how beautiful and fulfilling my life was. Many things in life are beyond our control, or can change on a dime, and looking too far ahead can often lead to disappointment. I’m lucky enough to be married to someone who is really good at living “in the moment”. If I’m ever looking too far ahead into the future, Devan will stop me and pull me back to the present reminding me that there’s nothing I can do to change things at that very moment. I can’t say I’ll completely stop looking at what’s ahead, but I will definitely make a conscious effort to find a balance between staying motivated to accomplish my goals and being present in the now.
What are some of the things you do to motivate yourself, while remaining present in the moment? I’d love to hear your thoughts!